Damn You LinkedIn!

“How is it that at 27 I haven’t settled into a career?” I scream as I obsessively update LinkedIn. “Look here Blah Blah is already a junior exec at (insert high-powered company here).” I sheepishly press connect . Who’s the know it all that said being a college graduate was easy? Doctors, teachers, and lawyers that’s who. And everyone whose path is an “a + b= instant career clarity”.  Dear Life:  It would appear that I have hit a wall.


Well folks there it is…in part…

I studied film acting my first love second only to theatre. Like  many young ingenues I dreamed one day I would achieve stardom. Naturally I moved to “LA Baby” with a very narrow minded vision of what it meant to be a working actor. After I moved I suddenly realized I was in over my head. I questioned if I had what it took to make it. No…I questioned if I had the will to suffer financially for the sake of my art. Not to mention everyone around me tried to convince me I was making a mistake. My talent, dreams, and ambitions was never discussed. I was however repeatedly reminded that the success rate for an actor was extremely low.  Essentially I became a deer in headlights. I didn’t invest in headshots, acting classes, or push myself  to find an agent. I simply did background work and after three months of The Secret Life of the American Teenager I fell into production.

Slidell Little Theatre

Gwendolyn Fairfax at her best!

I’ll skip the details of my career (or lack thereof), it’s on LinkedIn. Lets just say I felt as though I was betraying myself by sitting behind a desk.  And yet five years later I’m still sitting behind a desk exhausted at the fact that I haven’t pursued anything, hence the ongoing frustration with LinkedIn.

I used to believe I had no talents and that  I was only good at acting. I’m not sure where this came from (that’s a lie but to get it out of me, you’ll have to buy me some coffee), it’s been a complex.  Once I realized this thinking was self-destructive it freed me to look access my life with more clarity. I began obsessively journaling and asking myself: what were the things I enjoyed in previous jobs? When was I happiest and more importantly what other things do I like to do?  I needed to know. I needed to breakdown the pieces of my life and realize it’s okay for me to say acting is just a hobby and no I’m not looking to make it a career.  No! I am not a failure because I didn’t end up with an Oscar or on a television show. I needed to tell myself it was okay to change my story because this was my story and I was secretly ashamed that I wasn’t pursuing my craft and that I hadn’t “made it”.



Getting it onto the paper

This has been the hardest introspection I’ve ever faced. I am looking at myself almost daily so when I make my next move it’s clear where I’m going. Stay tuned, I’ve got more career game coming at you in my next post “Rejection…the Breakfast of Champions!”


3 thoughts on “Damn You LinkedIn!

  1. Pingback: Damn You LinkedIn! | Qartuli Itsi?

  2. Pingback: Be Unstoppable | Fit To Be Queen

  3. Pingback: Be Unstoppable | Fit To Be Queen

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s